I’m at my Grandpa’s 90th birthday today. It’s a good day. Now let’s learn about what’s new in the travel and blog worlds.
Learning to Love the Digital Haters
I don’t think I’m evolved enough to truly love those that go after my passionate pursuits, but Tim Ferriss makes some solid points on reactions, time efficiency, and dealing with criticism – both logical and rant-asical. Check out the following speech below (it’s long but I watched it all and enjoyed it) or browse his ideas below:
The following list is paraphrased from Mashable’s Tim Ferriss: 7 Great Principles for Dealing with Haters
1. It doesn’t matter how many people don’t get it. What matters is how many people do.
“It’s critical in social media, as in life, to have a clear objective and not to lose sight of that,” Ferriss says. He argues that if your objective is to do the greatest good for the greatest number of people or to change the world in some small way (be it through a product or service), you only need to pick your first 1,000 fans — and carefully. “As long as you’re accomplishing your objectives, that 1,000 will lead to a cascading effect,” Ferriss explains. “The 10 million that don’t get it don’t matter.”
2. 10% of people will find a way to take anything personally. Expect it.
“Online I see people committing ’social media suicide’ all the time by one of two ways. Firstly by responding to all criticism, meaning you’re never going to find time to complete important milestones of your own, and by responding to things that don’t warrant a response.”
3. “Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity.” – Colin Powell
“That guarantees you’ll get more behavior you don’t want and less you do.”
4. “If you are really effective at what you do, 95% of the things said about you will be negative.” – Scott Boras
The bigger your impact and the larger the ambition and scale of your project, the more negativity you’ll encounter.
5. “If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.” – Epictetus
“To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.”
6. “Living well is the best revenge.” – George Herbert
“The best way to counter-attack a hater is to make it blatantly obvious that their attack has had no impact on you.”
7. Keep calm and carry on.
“Focus on impact, not approval. If you believe you can change the world, which I hope you do, do what you believe is right and expect resistance and expect attackers.”
The Frustration Epiphanies
Evan has a good point. We travel with the expectation that the huge events we schedule reveal the most, move us to the climax of our emotions.
When we travel, we literally become different people. Stripped of our habits, routines and safe places, we are forced to meet the world as we are. The more we travel, the more accustomed we become to participating and thriving in the world because travel, by design, brings an openness of heart and a clarity of self. Some travelers have a spiritual fantasy of this new life, and it can include the clichéd vision that, despite all our cultural differences, we’re really “all one”…Unfortunately, when you’re traveling, this naïve view results in a lot of stolen wallets. But, more importantly, that’s not how the traveler’s transformation of consciousness really goes down.
In actuality, I feel the times I experience the iconic and stereotypically “awe-inspiring” are the times I’m less inspired. Riding 18 hours in an Indian sleeper car with the stomach flu, walking across Lusaka in the summer sun because I’m out of money for a taxi (or a hostel), mourning a separation with friends on the beach in Malawi – these moments are the ones when the most is revealed about myself and my displaced existence.
At what point in your travels do you experience the little epiphanies? When do you learn the most about yourself and the purpose of your movement? Do those moments of self-discovery usually occur simultaneously with itinerary highlights or when the frustrations take the limelight? Comment below and tell me what you think!
Traveling is Seeing
Joel scribed a great piece at Vagabonding this week, which felt more like inspired prose than a simple post on an impression of travel.
We travel also to see things that are not easy to see. The Egyptian man in Alexandria, for example, who walks past your cafe table selling kleenexes, his skeletal frame so disfigured that he walks with his torso almost parallel to the ground. His eyes meet yours and you exchange a smile, suddenly conscious of the dollar’s worth of lemon juice in your hand and the relatively great health along your own spine…
And sometimes we may even travel to catch our own reflection in a cracked and dirty mirror, not entirely sure for a moment what it is — or rather who it is — that we’re looking at. And perhaps later in the day, when we see our reflection not in glass but in the eyes and faces of our neighbors, we will have a moment of clarity about what and who we are.
This week, I’ve been especially aware of my own reasons for traveling, and Joel made me realize yet another on my list. I love being humbled by the constant stimulation while traveling. The exchange, the “you’re on” sense from a live TV broadcast, the challenge to the self from the self and the world – it’s all in the attempt to solidify your own essence and self-knowledge. I’m a fan of travel because it helps me see myself in a way that could only be alternately achieved by rapid time lapse into my future.
For your reading pleasure: The 11 Foreigners You Meet in China
An interesting viewpoint on Arizona’s new immigration law: Que Lástima…
Makes you hungry and a little disgusted at the same time: Seven Essential Breakfasts for the World Traveler
Update on Nomadderwhere
This weekend I headed up to the Northern Indiana lakes for some friend time before my first ProjectExplorer adventure! Of all the things that I enjoy about the Midwest, it is this lake culture I miss the most when abroad and away from the comforts and rituals of home.
This week at Nomadderwhere (big week for Fiji narratives):
- Self-Teaching New Skills: A triple video post helping you get inspired for your own video editing pursuits. Join the conversation!
- The Flow of a Fijian Funeral: Watch this well-orchestrated event take place with a flow that matches the natural setting where it takes place.
- The Danger of Not Processing the Bad: The first of three big occurrences that told us our project wasn’t possible the way we imagined it.
- The First and Last School Visit: Thanks to the timing of our trip, we only got a little school exposure, but it was fantastic…and we could have done so much, sadly.
- The Hell-raising Fundraiser: A revealing post that describes the two finals straws that broke our Nakavika backs, a.k.a. the climax of the story.
Hardcore Brain Expansion: I’m happy to say I finished my read on Mexico City (which I recommend – review coming soon) in time for the big trip and am now working on The Lost Girls, the first and recently released narrative put out by the girls in charge of LostGirlsWorld.com. Hope I finish it before Saturday, because this bad boy is one thick travel read.
T minus 6 Days: On May 29th, I’ll be on my way to New York City to meet my new boss for the first time. For a couple days, photo shoots and training sessions will be on the agenda, alongside meet-ups with my great friend, Garrett, before he heads to Malawi on his Peace Corps assignment! If you’re in the NYC area next weekend and want to meet up, DM me on twitter or use my contact form!
Video/Online Property Update: You’ll notice in the near future that I’m testing out a little Vimeo action. I’ve exclusively used Youtube for all my travel videos thus far, and even though I enjoy using that platform, I’d like to join the Vimeo community to see what works best for my work. Which video platform do you prefer, and why?
1 Minute or Less Moments: This week on my Nomadderwhere Facebook Fan Page, I’ve published raw video clips of some intimate funeral footage (because I think these are meaningful moments to give some perspective) and one of the children early on a school morning.